Two difficulties

If you have ever loathed being an entrepreneur, see the movie, Up in the Air.

It will straighten many assumptions you have held about job security, loyalty and the legacy you want to leave behind.

Understand that working for someone else, all through your career life is as difficult as starting your own business, only the former choice often delays the difficulty till when one is old and grey.

Become irreplaceable

When relationships end for any reason, people only miss you if they find you to be irreplaceable.

In many ways, the influence that making yourself invaluable to any person or group wields is one of the financial secrets of the age.

If you want to deepen the bond with people, with whom you share a relationship, personal or professional, work on becoming so valuable they find it hard to replace you.

The gift of self-awareness

If you live in a part of the world where lockdowns were used to manage the Coronavirus pandemic, you received a gift.

The pandemic put you in a position to learn a lot about yourself. For some, the codependent nature of their relationships became manifest as a result of the forced isolation. They realized they were addicted to someone, not from love but from the need for ‘normalcy.’

But codependency isn’t always about having to depend on someone else unhealthily. Rather, it’s about something in your psyche—maybe an emotional trauma—that needs to heal. This self-awareness that you need help is a gift.

The art of making right decisions

Right decisions. Wrong decisions. Making decisions is more about who you are, than about your concept of right and wrong, or the environment you habituate.

In a nutshell, if work on your self-concept, ‘the ideal you,’ through a daily meditative process that helps you stay true to that ideal, you will almost never make a wrong decision.

Someone, once said, “the only way to make good decisions is by making bad ones.” Wrong. That’s the second best way. If you find congruence within yourself, good decision-making will be effortless. Find congruence.

Move forward

There is no benefit in staying in one place and overthinking or over-planning. You have got to keep striving towards your goals.

Accept that there’s always going to be something to do. There’s always a going to be blind spots you are missing and there’s always the x-factor that you don’t yet know.

If you allow lethargy or discouragement to set in, you would have lost a lot before you realize it. Keep moving forward.

The best ability is availability

Nothing beats showing up. The people who achieve success aren’t the ones with the most talent. They are the ones who show up.

Opportunities are everywhere but they only meet people who show up not matter how uncomfortable the environment might seem.

If there’s any advantage to have, it’s the ability to show up to work, class or the gym, without excuses.

Don’t dabble lower

If you play beneath your estate in life, you’ll get sullied.

Whether you run a business, work with people or socialize, it’s important to know your peers and not dabble less than your level.

And to the reason why you should not compete, play or collaborate downwards, is that you’ll have learnt nothing, and you might lose your reputation in the process. There’s only mud beneath, if you think about it critically.

Learn to say no

‘No’ is a full sentence.

For the fact that some people could abuse you or your time and resources, you cannot openhandedly embrace everyone who asks you for a favor with a ‘yes.’

Maintaining congruence with yourself and your values might mean that you say no to lots of people and things. Learn to say no

Suffering is inevitable

No matter how much we love or care about people, understanding that we can’t always protect them from pain, and that their suffering is inevitable is something that gives us true perspective about how to deal with them when their suffering eventually happens .

If you accept that they will have to deal with difficult things that may be out of your scope of fixing, you would have relieved yourself of the most burdensome problem, your ego.

No matter who these people are to you, children, friends or coworkers, their suffering will happen, and the best you might be able to do is watch them overcome or succumb to it by themselves.

Culture matters

The culture you embrace will determine everything you achieve in life.

Quite broadly, there are two cultures in all of humanity. There’s the top-bottom culture that enshrines a pecking order and there’s an flat-network culture that encapsulates egalitarianism.

While the former focuses on power, the other focuses on efficiency, and it doesn’t matter the sphere in which you find yourself—political, social or industrial—culture matters