Money is not the problem

You don’t have to have the money to start that business or career. The money is irrelevant, if you understand that your desire is all that counts.

See, the human mind is a goal accomplishing phenomenon. What you need is to think and habituate the thoughts of what you want to accomplish, long enough, and your mind will reorient itself to actualize it.

By daydreaming and visualizing, you train your mind to recognize the people, materials and circumstances required to capture your goal, no matter how long it takes.

Resourcefulness over resources

It’s not what you have that counts but what you do with what you have.

For some they have a rich parent, others have goodwill and some still, have time.

Creating the future you desire is only possible if you look at what you truly have, and no more. Then, become resourceful with all you have.

Emotional abuse is a double whammy

Emotional abuse is as dangerous or even more harmful to the psyche as any other form of abuse, physical, financial or verbal.

It’s insidious potency is in the fact that it chips at a person’s self-esteem, unseen, until there’s no person at all, just a shell of a spouse, partner, sibling or friend.

Its second blow is almost always that the victim usually gets blamed for ‘overreacting’ when trying to end the abuse.

Opinions are just projections

It’s liberating when you realize that people’s opinions of you are almost always projections of how they see themselves.

In other words, when the people close to you malign you and call you names, see it as them telling you exactly how they feel about themselves in that moment.

So the next time someone in your orbit says something positive or negative about you, see it as an inroad to how that person sees himself or herself in that moment.

Are you interested or committed?

This question isn’t for people who are still daydreaming about starting a business, finding a spouse or getting out of a tough spot in life. Feel free to skip it if you are still daydreaming.

It’s for people who are actually in the throes of taking action, and still second guessing themselves.

To be interested means that enthusiasm got you to start that business, get married or attend therapy. To be committed is a totally different ballgame. It means doing whatever it takes to stay in business, stay married or complete the process of ridding yourself of that tough spot you found yourself in. It’s a question you must answer for yourself, sincerely.

Attention management

The three things you must learn to manage to be effective, in my opinion, are your mind, time and attention.

In clear terms, you must guard your mind from mediocre thoughts, allocate your time to things that help you reach your goals and give enormous attention to the tasks and people required to reach your goals.

While mind management and time management are easily understood because of the exhaustive resources that have been created to address these phenomena, attention management is an equally interrelated subject that presents an opportunity to become mainstream.

Mental foreplay

If you do a 9 to 5, and are working on a side-hustle after work but almost always lack the brain power to get your own work done after you leave the office, do this.

At your breaks and during commute time to and from work, listen to motivational podcasts.

Provide yourself with the mental foreplay to activate your brain power so that when you get to the place of your side hustle, you can deliver on those tasks that you need to move you from employee to entrepreneur.

Life is cause and effect

In any relationship you have, always ask yourself how you can be a better person for others. Ask yourself, how can I be a better parent, sibling or friend?

Sometimes, ask for feedback. Other times, investigate.

It’s not enough to pray and hope things turn out well. Life is cause and effect. If you experience any effect, take responsibility and begin to invest in a different cause.