Love is a choice, only we don’t realize it’s almost always an unconscious one.
That’s why many people think we don’t choose who we love. Those eyes, smiles and voices we fall in love with, are markers for things like trust, support and emotional safety, deeply imprinted in our minds from our experiences of the world around us.
We don’t love by chance. There’s almost always a subconscious rehearsal from films, social interactions and more recently, social media that rigs our choices.