If you define yourself by the definitions of others, you will never amount to much.
What is pertinent for you to understand about how others see you will only help you learn the limits they have put on what’s possible with you.
For instance, the country where you live basically defines you as a tax payer. To it, the best the country can do for you is normalize you into working a job to pay taxes. If you know this limit, you can work with it and then surpass it. That’s why some people get rich and others don’t.